Being replaced in your husband’s life by another woman hurts a lot.You are likely to cycle through periods of anger and sadness and the sickening feeling of how you were betrayed.If you are like many of the women I work with, you have either just discovered your husband’s affair or have been told by him that he is leaving you for someone else.Although he is the one having the affair, he may be blaming you for a loss of connection in your relationship.My friend has gotten bitter at God for allowing his wife to be in that condition, and now he's started seeing another woman. So that's what he's saying, is that she's like—but this is an ethical question that is beyond my ken to tell you.He says that he should be allowed to see other people because his wife as he knows her is gone … But I certainly wouldn't put a guilt trip on you if you decided that you had to have companionship.
She doesn't even recognize him anymore, and, as you can imagine, the marriage has been rough. It is one of the most awful things, because here's the loved one—this is the woman or man that you have loved for 20, 30, 40 years, and suddenly that person is gone. But to make sure she has custodial care and somebody looking after her—Yeah, I know, if you respect that vow, but you say "till death do us part," this is a kind of death.Before you throw in the towel on your marriage, take a closer look at whether your marriage can still be saved.The investment it takes to do that is worth being able to clear your mind and breathe easy again.But in spite of all these efforts, when I try to initiate sex, my wife participates through the foreplay and then tells me that she just doesn't feel like having sex or is too tired.She still enjoys kissing and receiving massages from me but that's as far as it goes.